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things that piss me off (acne edition)
1) annoying people giving me useless advice - just yesterday a girl from my school came up to me and told me “hey listen, did you ever try using manuka honey for your face? it’s like 50 $ but it’s really good”(sidenote: she has clear skin) okay i get these ‘tips’ at least twice per day and they make me so frustrated like jesus i’ve used everything available in this universe oh my god do you think some honey is really going to help me? no
2) “you shouldn’t wear makeup it worsens your acne” how about no, it’s easy to say this, but if i were to go to school without makeup everyone would talk about my acne and i mean THE WHOLE SCHOOL + TEACHERS. it’s an easy thing to say when you have like 3 pimples but my confidence is already below zero so not wearing makeup would just throw me into a deep depression.
3) people talking me out of Accutane this happened when i was thinking about going on Accutane and i told my friend. all my friends went batshit crazy and proceeded to talk me out of it. i understand people caring about you but at the end of the day it’s my choice, and if i would go on Accutane it would be after lots and lots and even more hours of research. i know what i’m stepping into.
4) people just being ignorant and rude i once made the mistake of telling my friend that i had a good skin day and she just blurted out “you call that a good skin day? just kidding” and these kind of remarks really get to me. i don’t understand why some people feel the need to make somebody feel bad for themselves. what do you gain?? stop ok??
5) getting noticed and labeled only by your acne if you have ever had bad acne then you know the feeling of talking to a person a noticing their gaze glide to a bad pimple you have. or getting recognized as “the girl with reaaally bad acne” . yup, it’s the worst.
Let’s play, “was I abused” game! Reblog and bold the things your parents have done to you! Italicize if you’re not sure. (copy paste it all and then bold)
Physical abuse
- parent slapped me to prove their point/teach me a lesson
- parent spanked me as a “punishment” saying it was for my own good
- parent pulled on my hair to force me to move
- parent threw things at me while angry, things heavy enough to hurt me
- parent trapped me into a room/corner so I couldn’t escape them
- parent hit me when I wouldn’t obey them/tried to confront them
- parent used a twig/stick/belt to lash at my body
- parent grabbed me to force me to pay attention to them
- parent pinned me down and physically prevented me from escaping
- parent brought me into situations where I feared for my life
- parent made it painfully obvious for me that I’ll obey them or suffer injuries
- parent threatened to beat me if I wouldn’t do as they say
- parent forcefully fed me something I refused to eat
- parent made an attempt at strangling/drowning/burning me
- parent banged my head/body into the wall/furniture
- parent forced me into sexual activities
Emotional abuse
- parent called me derogatory names and slurs more than once
- parent said my name mostly with hatred and scorn in their voice
- parent degraded and humiliated me in front of others for fun
- parent insulted and devalued something really important to me
- parent deprived me of something that meant the world to me
- parent yelled and swore at me in anger more than once
- parent blamed me for things that were out of my control/not my fault
- parent shamed me for my physical appearance
- parent guilt-tripped me for not pleasing them well enough
- parent regarded me as a burden, and shamed me for needing them at all
- parent insisted I couldn’t take a joke after I got hurt from their insults
- parent never comforted me/got angry if I reached for comfort
- parent punished me for crying/showing fear/showing trauma symptoms
- parent humiliated me for showing excitement and happiness
- parent subtly let me know that my feelings and my problems don’t matter
- parent got angry at me for feeling depressed/angry/tired/suicidal
- parent blamed me for feeling depressed/angry/tired/suicidal
- parent compared me to cousins/other children to prove how I’m the worst
- parent decided for me how I feel when it was convenient for them
- parent told me that I was crazy/delusional/need to be locked away
- parent threatened me with kicking me out/sending away if I don’t change
- parent refused to accept my sexuality/tried to force it to change
- parent required for me to act normal to protect family’s reputation
- parent isolated me from family activities they all enjoy
- parent assured me that nobody will ever want me
- parent insisted that I was lucky and that I could have had it much worse
- parent made me responsible for their well being and made me the caretaker
- parent insisted that their harmful acts were all made “out of love”
- parent demanded me to be available for their requests at any time
- parent punished me for trying to establish boundaries
- parent destroyed my belongings as a revenge
- parent made inappropriate sex jokes and comments in my presence
- parent denied doing any of this and insists that all the blame is on me
Psychological Abuse
- parent kept pointing out my flaws as proofs that I wont achieve anything
- parent called me stupid, incompetent, ignorant, while withholding information that I needed to know in order to complete tasks
- parent would change their side of the agreement in crucial moment and then pretend it was obvious from the start
- parent stalked me/distrusted me without any reason/invaded my privacy
- parent attacked my insecurities and vulnerabilities in any argument
- parent forced me into degrading actions while they watched me do it
- parent threatened to leave me
- parent accused me regularly of behaving the way they did
- parent never acknowledged, praised or approved of my actions
- parent always demanded they are right without any proof/explanation
- parent insisted that they’re a great parent using financial support as proof
- parent insisted that I should be grateful for how good they are to me
- parent gaslighted me and tried to make me believe my memories weren’t real if I confronted them with what they did
Neglect
- parent didn’t notice I haven’t been eating properly
- parent didn’t notice I was sick/didn’t care for me while I was sick
- parent didn’t notice I was injured
- parent didn’t notice I didn’t have clothes/shoes I needed for school
- parent didn’t notice I suffered from trauma
- parent didn’t notice I was anxious and stressed
- parent didn’t notice I was depressed
- parent didn’t notice I was cutting myself
- parent didn’t notice I was suicidal
- parent didn’t notice I was being sexually abused
- parent didn’t notice I was being bullied
- parent failed to get me medical attention when it was needed
- parent failed to teach me the very basics of self care
- parent didn’t seem to notice any of my needs and feelings except the absolute minimum I required to survive
- when I notified them of these things, they denied it, accused me of lying, decided it wasn’t happening and/or blamed me for it
Financial Abuse
- parent made me feel ashamed for needing money
- parent made me feel like I’m a financial burden to them
- parent only gave me minimal money to survive
- parent made sure I never have a decent amount of money on me
- parent took the money I earned from me
- parent used the money to blackmail me (if you continue this way let’s see who will pay for your bus ticket!)
- parent insisted since they “pay for my stuff” they have the right to control my behaviour and actions
- parent had enough money for luxury but kept me without anything
- parent refused to get my medicine/get me medical attention because it’s too expensive while they got everything for themselves
- parent would keep me anxious over if they would pay my expenses or not
- parent would make me do as much work for them as possible before they would pay for a necessity
- parent would make sure I never have enough money to escape them
If you bold more than 5 things, you have been through abuse. For some particular ones, even one true thing on this list means you’ve been badly harmed by your parents. Also this list is not complete, there are many more abusive behaviours not listed here, feel free to add!
IF YOU CANT HANDLE ME AT MY WORST, JUST REMEMBER THAT I HANDLE ME AT MY WORST AND THAT MAKES ME STRONGER THAN YOU
Oh my goodness this makes me feel powerful I hadn’t even thought of it like this.
things dan howell is allowed to do to me:
- kick me into the sun
- punch me in the face
- break into my house
- break my leg
things dan howell is not allowed to do to me:
this
- cat: you have a snack, I want that
- me: it's an apple, you don't like it
- cat: but WHAT IF i DID
- me: *sighs* fine, try this
- cat: *scrunches nose* I CN'T BELIEVE YOU TREID TO POISON ME
